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What makes a man worthy of respect? What makes a man truly a man? Is it the physiological features alone? Or, is there more to being a man that can bring manhood to full realization? Is it having lots of women? Is it having plenty of sexual experiences? Is it reaching the top of the corporate and financial ladder? Is is having children?

Most male animals can procreate; just a few men can be good fathers.
Many mammals grow hair; only a few men can grow character.
Some guys find worth in exercising, do-it-yourself and self-improvement projects; only a few men can exercise self-control.
Some men pride themselves on muscle power but lack wisdom and strength to control such power in the midst of temptation, anger or adverse situations.
This culture seems to tell us that an accomplished man can get every and any toy, tool and gadget he wants. However, maybe full realization of manhood is found in the ability to satisfy the needs and desires of wives, children and those entrusted to that man’s care.

Maybe a man’s body and physiological features dictate manhood alone. Or maybe there are other areas that make manhood more real and transcendental than the physical. Other areas that can make a man worthy of respect.

There was once a man who, was known for being a loving warrior. Some say that he once killed thousands of enemies by Himself just to defend his own. With sacrifice, selflessness, unconditional love and courage, he gave it all up to do what no one else could. He fought and fiercely opposed his enemies to complete victory. He loved his children, he had the character and self control to wait for the appropriate time to meet His bride but did everything He could to gain her love….

Maybe every man would do well in learning more from him… He is a man worthy of respect.


This woman’s proposition, with all due respect, is the most preposterous, ridiculous and nonsensical argument I’ve heard in recent times.

If you haven’t seen or heard it yet, this lawmaker is proposing that, since women are being banned from aborting their babies, then men should be banned from having a vasectomy. Are you kidding me here?

Please someone correct me if I am wrong:

1. Abortion kills an already existent human, a living person.
2. Vasectomy is a surgery for men to keep them permanently from the possibility of being able to  ‘make’ babies.
3. Abortion, 100% of the times, terminates a life.
4. Vasectomy avoids what otherwise may or may not happen in the future.
5. The women’s procedure that would be logically and medically equivalent to vasectomy is tubal ligation
6. Women and men have under current laws -as far as I know, the same equal right to exercise permanent contraception (vasectomy / tubal ligation), which happens to be the responsible thing -besides saying “no”.
7. If she or anyone is so truly concerned about the “thousands of children deprived from birth”, then fight against abortion, not for it.
8. The judgement of a man or woman exercising permanent contraception is, in my humble opinion, better than the judgement of the ones who kill an innocent baby because they couldn’t keep their pants on.
9. Men’s choice on vasectomy should be legally unilateral because the ‘possible’ baby is not in existence yet (and may never exist) and, in some cases, the identity of the mother who would contribute, may not even be known yet.
10. On the other hand, a baby in the womb,  already exists and by definition has a father and a mother and therefore, if her logic followed suit, the men should have a say on the abortion decision.

Finally, I find difficult to believe that you can identify any scientific data whatsoever that shows a remotely comparable set of emotional, physiological and cultural effects in a man who had a vasectomy vs. a woman who had an abortion.

Please click here to see an article on the AJC

Please see below Rep Yasmin Neal (GA House District 75)  defending her argument.

This week marks the first year anniversary of Thoughts With Accent.  As I shared  on the very first entry, it started at the suggestion of my wife to better share thoughts (with accent  🙂 ), as opposed to Notes on Facebook.

Since then, I have written about personal topics such the typical “about me“, my cologne , my travels , lost friendships, and even famous people I’ve met. Holidays, politics and some music have also been topics of discussion.

I have likewise enjoyed considering serious issues in Christian life like judgingconflict devotional life, and “coincidences” from the Bible.


After 1 year, 90 posts and 15,000 viewers, these were the most viewed, linked, re-tweeted and/or recommended by readers:

1st-year’s top 5 most  viewed, linked, re-tweeted and/or recommended blog entries:

5. Beaten by an Atheist; healed by a Muse”; what I have come to conclude 

4. Judging and de-friending 

3. More than just “wash each other’s feet” 

2. My name is Luis, and I am a Pharisee. I’ve been clean for 48 hrs 

1. Born Identity



Happy 4th of July!!

Sex is good

Posted: November 5, 2010 in love, Me and God, Me and people, Sex

Sex is good (Now, that’s a catchy title, isn’t?)

One of the areas in my life where I know I need improvement, is… (No, I’m not going to say ‘sex’) eating.

I know the right and healthy way to take care of this body God gave me is to nurture it with balanced meals three times a day. However, although I do pay a lot of attention to eating healthy and no much junk food at all, I have to confess that sometimes I don’t eat as ‘on-time’ as I should.

I could blame it on work primarily and business of life in general. Particularly when I am traveling, much to my shame, eating seems to take a second –or third –or fourth place… get out of the house early, head to the airport, security gate, flight.. land, car rental.. meetings.. and when I least expect it, I hear a voice and feel a pain: “FEED ME!!!” – my stomach, my body, raise an alert, a reminder –justifiable so, that I must take care of my physical needs. I don’t know how much of a consensus I can find in this pattern of not eating until I feel hungry.. is it just me or is it safe to say that many –perhaps most would probably skip a meal or two or three if it wasn’t for the biological alert of being hungry.

Now, you wonder, what about the sex? Weren’t you going to blog about sex?

Yes, I mention this because I wonder if there is a connection between food and sex. I wonder about the accuracy of a few parallels:

  1. Hunger is the morally neutral God given desire to satisfy the physical need for food. If left without the ability to feel hunger, would we leave ourselves to starve  death in the busyness of life.. or almost close? In the same way, sex, is –as a general definition, the morally neutral (not inherently a sin) God given desire to satisfy the physical need for intimacy and reproduction. If we didn’t feel the need for sex, would we inadvertently let our species to go extinct?
  2. Everybody –living creature, and us humans, need to eat. It is not a sin, it is just the way we were wired. In the same way, everybody needs sex –it is not a sin either, it is just the way were wired by our creator.
  3. A tender sirloin NY strip steak is unequivocally the best entry anyone can have –the best dinner treat anyone can give me, BUT, if you give one of those to the wrong person at the wrong time or in the wrong way, (i.e. 2 month baby, religious person from India, patient recovering from esophagus surgery) you can end up in a whole lot of troubles. In the same way, the sexual act of intercourse or a intimate act, can be very, very, good.. or, it can give you a whole lot of troubles if done with wrong person, at the wrong time or in the wrong way

As pleasant and satisfactory as it is to eat a delicious steak at a fine restaurant, it is -and way better, to have sex (both in the physical and intimate aspects) within the safe parameters God gave us (spouse, marriage etc). He gave us the desires because it is GOOD, we need it, for marriage building, reproduction and even couple fun!,

I shall finish my sandwich at 40,000ft as I fly back to Atlanta while listening to part two of “What Intimacy Requires” (Very good recommendation from Jennifer Howes’ blog )